Everybody deserves to have a healthy relationship with love, trust, good communication, shared interests, sex with consent, privacy, fun, laughter, loyalty, compliments, compromise and equality.
Being in a relationship with these qualities will make you and your partner feel happy, loved, special, secure, confident and important.
To achieve a healthy relationship requires compromise and understanding, which can be hard work. It is important that both you and your partner want to and do make an effort.
But...the more positive effort and energy you both put in together, the more positive the relationship will be for both of you.
If you are in a relationship and feel scared or pressurised into doing things you don't want then this is not okay. If you feel uncomfortable or unhappy and uncertain about what is happening then it may be an abusive relationship. A loving relationship is based on respect not fear. Abusive behaviour may include some or all of these things:
This is known as domestic violence
An abusive relationship may start off seeming healthy, but there are some warning signs that things might change. Here are a few:
If you are worried about your relationship, remember you can talk to someone you trust or contact a helpline, which you can find in the Help page of this site.
Remember that you are not alone. Other young people are experiencing the same things. Click here to read other young people's stories.